Speed dating survey results
I’ve heard many Christian dating “horror stories.” It’s funny, because sometimes when I asked the person why it was so terrible, they said something like, “They were so rude!They texted me to ask me out instead of calling on the phone.” Or, “They didn’t offer to pick me up from my house.To really understand what people prefer, you need to pair men and women randomly in an experimental dating service and document the decisions they make. Speed dating is matchmaking on, well, speed—each male-female pair (we stuck to heterosexual couples) meets for four minutes to size each other up, at which point a whistle blows, signaling the men to get up and move on to the next woman.And so for a couple of years at a local bar just off the Columbia campus, I ran a speed-dating experiment with two psychologists, Sheena Iyengar and Itamar Simonson, and fellow economist Emir Kamenica. After each "date," participants decide if they'd like to see their partner again.After two years of serving as academic love brokers, we had data on thousands of decisions made by more than 400 daters from Columbia University's various graduate and professional schools.By combining all of our choice and ratings data with separately collected background information on the daters, we could figure out what made someone desirable by comparing the attributes of daters that attracted a lot of interest for future dates with those that were less popular.Does all of this rational-choice stuff take the romance and mystery out of romance (just as some have accused my fellow economist Joel Waldfogel of taking the Christmas spirit out of Christmas)? Our purpose is to understand how life-long relationships are formed.
The same may be true of the tendency to marry someone of one's own race or religion.In a survey we did before the speed dating began, participants rated their own intelligence levels, and it turns out that men avoided women whom they perceived to be smarter than themselves.The same held true for measures of career ambition—a woman could be ambitious, just not more ambitious than the man considering her for a date.His analysis predicted a pattern of "positive assortative matching," where men and women of similar desirability would partner with one another.
While models of dating have proliferated in the years since Becker's pioneering work, we have not progressed very much in testing his theories, or even answering the most basic dating question, for Becker or anyone else: What, exactly, makes someone desirable?Location: Uof M Carlson School of Management, room 1-147If you're planning to attend October 21st's "Modeling in the Morning" with Aeon and don't yet know what approach you want to try, this is the event for you.