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Some of what we feel about our looks has to do with how we were invaded by Japan, which was attached to Western ideals and culture.
Korea had to let go of culture and traditions because they were held to it by a gun. We had this outlook that we had to Westernize or we’d face war.
Basically, all I wanted to do when I was younger was get old enough to get eyelid surgery, marry a white guy and change my last name immediately. White friends would say things like ‘Wow, you don’t have any eyelashes.In college, I became more open to other viewpoints, and it helped how I saw myself.Being able to read more Asian people’s stories about how they saw themselves woke me up to feeling like I was beautiful. People want large eyes, and that’s a result of imperialism and colonialism ― Western trends have touched us in many ways, but have also taken away from our own culture.So when we get made fun of, maybe it’s because we have been quiet — because we have had to be.
We’re also self-deprecating and can seem like we lack confidence.
To talk about Asian eyes is to have a unique lexicon.